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want to help our two church communities to come together, but we sometimes
feel we are always expected to be the token ecumenical
'We are so pleased when we hear a priest
talking inclusively of Christians and not just of Catholics.'
is hard work when we try to take part in the life of both our churches. We
cannot be together in both all the time.’
'Why are we accepted more as a family in
our other Christian community than we are here in our Catholic parish?'
'Sometimes I seem to be treated as a
second-class Christian in my partner's Catholic church.'
'Our children want to be confirmed, but
they are delaying because they do not want to choose one denomination over
don't want to commit exclusively to one of my parents' churches.'
“Sometimes we go to my church,
sometimes we go to her church, but we do not feel either is our church.”
'We were so pleased when both our clergy
and communities could get together at our wedding, and for the baptisms of
'Sharing communion on occasions has had
a huge positive impact on our relationship.'
‘We feel enriched as a family by our
experiences within both our churches.’
‘Being close creates difficulties but
also opportunities – we picture ourselves walking from our different
starting points up the mountain, becoming closer to each other the closer
we draw to the summit, to God.’
‘We want to be recognised for what we
are rather than for what we are not.’
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Prayer and Liturgical Opportunities| Back to top
such as the Week of Prayer for Christian Unity (January), National
Marriage Week (February), Women's World Day of Prayer (March), and
National Parents’ Week (October) are useful opportunities to organise
inclusive services and celebrations.
Together have local networks across the countries (CYTYN in
to get together annually with members of other local Christian churches at
the local pub for a meal.
home-based prayer, reflection and social groups. Many family-centred
organisations have an ecumenical dimension eg Marriage Encounter, Teams of
Our Lady, Passionist Family Groups.
Helpful Resources| Back to top
Marriages: A Revised Directory. Catholic Bishops’ Conference of
Together in Marriage: Pastoral Care of Interchurch Families. Churches
my husband/wife/parent/child ever receive Holy Communion with me?
Board of Catholic Women, [n.d.]
to Survive being Married to a Catholic.
Michael Henesy & Rosemary Gallagher, Redemptorist Publications, 2001
Prepared; an ecumenical guide for marriage preparation. Available from Churches Together in
of Interchurch Families,